So three females here at work decide they have nothing better to talk about then what they are suppose to get for each anniversary. Paper, plastic, glass, silver, blah blah blah. So of course being me I decide to start snickering under my breath (but just loud enough to be heard) as they go through the list. Needles to say this catches their attention (as planned) and they begin making their comments at me as the “typical male”. As they begin questioning me as to my thoughts on the subject they preface it with the question of “how long have you been married?” to which they laughed at my answer of “I’ve got 4 years down”. After they make fun of my answer I point out how Elizabeth has been pregnant for 3 of the 4, to which they tell me to just leave her alone. The answer of 4 years down while true and while said with the kind of attitude you would expect from a “typical male” got me to thinking…THAT’S IT?!?! We’ve only been married for 4 years!!! I am not questioning the math nor am I acting as if I’ve been so miserable the past 4 years that it seems so much longer. This is where I am going to deviate from the “typical male” game I had been playing.
My response now becomes serious. Yeah the past 4 years seems a lot longer. Let me explain why. I got thinking back over the past 4 years and could not believe the timeline I came up with. See if you can follow:
July 5 2003 – Elizabeth and I get married
July 26 2003 – We leave Michigan for Florida
August 2003 – Elizabeth begins her studies at Full Sail
February 2004 – I begin my job at Meadowbrook S
eptember 2 2004 – Elizabeth Graduates from Full Sail
September 2004 – We find out Elizabeth is pregnant
February 2005 – I accept job at Westin in Virgin Islands
March 2005 – Move to Virgin Islands
April 2005 – Move out of hotel and into “home” in islands
June 9 2005 – Kaylee is born on St Thomas
August 2005 – Move homes in islands
December 2005 – Elizabeth becomes pregnant
May 2006 – I accept promotion to Sheraton in Atlanta
June 1 2006 – Elizabeth and Kids leave St John J
une 21 2006 – Movers load up all our stuff and send to Atlanta
June 24 2006 - I leave St John for Atlanta, begin living in hotel
June 26 2006 – I begin new position
June 30 2006 – Elizabeth and Kaylee join me in Atlanta
July 2006 – Andrew joins us in Atlanta
August 24 2006 – Close on new home
August 26 2006 – Movers bring stuff to house, we move out of hotel
August 27 2006 – Allison is born
February 07 – Elizabeth is pregnant (again)
July 19 2007 – I get laid off of work
July 24 2007 - I start contract position at John Deere
October 20 2007 – Samantha is born 2 weeks early
November 21 2007 – My last day as contractor at John Deere
Do you see where I am coming from here. How many of these things listed above (getting married, moving the family, adding to the family, graduating college, changing jobs) are major life events? And how many have we jammed into the past 4 years? Too many.
The question is where do we go from here (besides the insane asylum)? We have decided that we are settling here in Atlanta for the next several years. We are going to be in our home for the next couple years. We’ve taken the steps to rule out having any more kids. Now if one of these two jobs pans themselves out well….then we aren’t going to know what to do with ourselves.